Dear yourconfessions,
ive been talking to this guy anthony for almost a year now and weve became really close. i never thought it would be more than a casual hookup but one night this kid who went to my school and graduated a couple years ago passed away and even though i didnt know him, anthony did. that night, anthony called me crying and told me that he never wants to loose me so i need to not doing anything stupid (like drugs because thats how the kid passed). that one phone call made me realize how much i cared for anthony. I didnt think anything would happen because he never showed any intrest in me other than sexually. But a couple times when im with him, hes said things like “i cant wait til your 18 so we can be together”(im 16 and hes 19) and he calls me beautiful and stuff. I dont know what to do because even if we still talk when im 18, i dont know if i can ever trust him because of the fact that he cheated on his girlfriends hes had in the past. Im the type of person who would normally just say that he was a player and not care what he says because its all talk but it bothers me because we both know that ill still hookup with him if he doesnt say the things he says.
- May 31
- , 2012
Dear yourconfessions,
I just turned 19 about 2 weeks ago and I still have yet to have a boyfriend, been kissed, etc. Normally it doesn’t really bother me but over the past year I’ve gotten super close to 3 different guys (at different times, not all at once) and each of them seemed to have crushed me more than the last. I know it’s not the end of the world to not have a boyfriend but as I’ve had all these new experiences in college I’ve kind of been wanting a relationship for a while now. Whenever I have a crush on a guy it always goes the same way. We start talking, it becomes texting/skyping/hanging out everyday, all my friends think we’re getting really close and even people that don’t know us that well think we’re dating, and then when I’m ready to take a chance and reveal my feelings….I find out he only likes me as a good friend and I’m stuck in the friend zone. I’ve gotten a ton of great guy friends this way over the years but I’ve never gotten that special attention that my friends get from guys. I can’t get a guy’s number or a dance at a party. Guys don’t give me compliments or anything. Maybe I’m just too shy or something? Any advice on getting the guys to see me as more than their best girl friend?
Sincerely,
I don’t want to be a cat lady
- May 30
- , 2012
Dear yourconfessions,
I’m 14 and a freshman right now. I don’t mean to sound like someone who flirts a lot or plays with boys, because I’m really not (I hope). But I’ve had a boyfriend in 6th grade, when I was really stupid and my friends convinced me I should go out with him. I’ll never know if I really liked that boy. Anyway he broke up with me. It wasn’t that bad, so I’m suspecting I didn’t really like him. I also went out with someone in 8th grade (pretty recent you could say) and I know I really liked that guy. But things didn’t turn out so well. The break-up kind of killed a part of me. I don’t know, maybe I’m just being overdramatic. I mean probably, I’ll have forgotten him 10 years later, you know? But right now I’m still not completely over it. It’s that stage where I’m like, get it in your head that he doesn’t like you and you don’t like him. But you know, I still notice him. Also at school for the Sadies dance (which was in February) I asked this guy who wanted me to ask him and “liked me a little” and thought I was pretty and whatever I don’t know but we drifted apart too, after the dance. And then there was this one guy who liked (likes) one of my good friends and he decided to pretend to like me to “practice” liking a girl. Ok so that was basically the final blow and I’ve had it with boys and I’m always getting left behind or used and they just make me feel pathetic. I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I don’t know maybe I’m just being overdramatic and a whiny little 9th grader. Sorry if I bothered you with my meaningless rant. It just feels like I repel boys or something and everyone finds an excuse to leave me behind. It feels like nothing I do will make people like me.
- May 27
- , 2012
Dear YourConfessions.
You know that college is stereotypically portrayed as a time of freedom and opportunities and a time to build up your CV/Resume, right? That applies for dormers. Not so much for me. I’m an incoming junior, and the most significant experience I’ve had so far was being a (very!) low-ranked officer at one of my organizations - and I didn’t really do that much there; I’m pretty sure I failed in half the tasks they gave me. The problem lies in the fact that I have over-protective parents. My dad wants me to go home at 4:30 PM, sharp - and he makes sure that I do, he waits for me at school for every. single. day. Like some gradeschool kid or something. And whenever I want to join something, he’ll rattle off that “he heard it’s not unlike a fraternity, nothing good will come out of it.” His sources are ridiculously mysterious (“a prof at the smoking area,” despite the fact that he doesn’t like it there, or some random driver, and the likes). Plus, he left college about THIRTY years ago. He doesn’t understand the fact that things have changed since then. And whenever I bring up the topic of going home by myself, they’d bring up the fact that I have one brother who died because he was commuting and some drug-addicts killed him for his money. The result: I’m two years away (I have a 5-year course) from graduating with a very empty resume. What do I do?
- May 27
- , 2012
Dear yourconfessions,
There’s this really creepy guy at my school, who is one of those guys who are not only complete jackasses but talks about things that make a lot of people uncomfortable, ie. sex, drugs, porn. He has this habit of coming up to girls in the hallway and putting his arms around them or forcibly giving them a hug. It makes me and a lot of my friends really creeped out but all of us are scared of him, because he seems really dangerous. I personally refuse to let him hug me, even backing up when he gets near me, but it makes me really scared and threatened when he gets anywhere near me or one of my friends. It’s becoming a problem, because he’s starting to get a little more adventureous and I’m afraid of girls being too scared to speak up. People have complained before but all he got was a warning from the counseling department. Please help!
Dear Yourconfessions
Okay so I just saw that my advice has been answered and things have changed so much since the time I submitted. So I’m going to give you the question and your response from before and then add onto it. I hope thats okay
http://youradvice.tumblr.com/post/21326087614
Okay so now he’s gotten so much more obvious about him maybe liking me. He’ll constantly rub my arm or like find ways to touch me. He’ll do stuff to make me laugh constantly. He’ll talk to me during class all the time. He still sits the same way. He asked for kisses and hugged me. He held my hand. And my friend walked behind us and said that he totally acted like he liked me but the thing is we don’t have each other’s numbers and he never is on Facebook to talk… what do you think about this? and what do i do?
Thanks, STILLconfusedcolorguardian
- May 24
- , 2012
Anonymous asked:
about how long does it take to answer each form? I sent a 800 words one and you still havent answered it ): its really urgent please
Dear youradvice,
I’m 18 and I’ve never been in a real relationship. I’ve never been kissed, I’ve never been wanted by a guy. Isn’t that fucking amazing.
- May 21
- , 2012
dear yourconfessions! this is really urgent.
i’m in love with someone, and i’ve told him 2 weeks ago. for now we can’t be together is what he told me, then he ignored me for the rest of the day. after this i wasn’t present because i went abroad and i came back a few days ago. today i saw him again, and his attitude was the same as that day when i told him that i love him. it kills me that nothing changed, and that i cannot make anything about it. i gave up on him so many times. i tried to not to think about him,i tried to have fun with my friends, do the things i like. i’ve really been struggling with this. but i can’t i just can’t. nothing can make me forget of how much i love him. this has broken me so much. i can’t move on. nothing could fix me in this moment not even him. i feel like my life lost its meaning. i’ve been thinking of killing myself, but then he’d think that i’m an unstable, depressed messed up person, which i’m not. and the stronger i get, the harder i break each time. i don’t know what to do. please help me.
